Know that whatever you are doing for someone, no one else can do it just like you.
If you don't get happiness from what your doing, change your focus to something else,
or someone else who appreciates your efforts. One person will take you for granted and another
will be forever grateful for you. Even in the smallest things, you can find satisfaction, take baby steps.
You had to crawl before you could walk, right? But ultimately, it is up to you who
you spend your life with, who you give your help and love and gifts to. It is your choice who will bring you happiness and who is lucky enough to receive the unique gift of you every day. Changing their lives for the better, making them smile and laugh. Being truly happy and sharing happiness and fulfillment.
Don't look at being happier as a future event that you have to plan for. Make it happen, take baby steps and before you know it,your happy and when your happy, the people who love and care about you are happy also. My father always told me: You and only you can decide what makes you happy. If you aren't happy, only you can change it and if you are happy, don't let Anyone, even yourself, stand in the way of your happiness. I have taught my children this and it has helped me to find my own happiness. And the weirdest thing is that, it's usually YOU, that stands in the way of your own happiness.
You may have been taught you aren't worthy of happiness or that only with great sacrifice, then and only then, can you find true happiness, bullcrap! That's what I say. I find happiness in every moment that I can. But I don't need a fireworks show,etc. to find it. Let the simple things in and around your life bring you that happiness, because you know what, TADAAA!!! that's life. You woke up today, smile! There are a lot of people that didn't. You got to see your family and friends today, even when they don't bring rainbows and hugs, be thankful. Some of us will never see some of our family and friends again until we leave this world. Just like I have always said when explaining a tragedy or life experience to someone that hasn't lived through it. I can tell you my story and what I felt and went through to survive it, but unless you have been there, felt it, survived it, you can't truly understand my pain or what I went through. You see the understanding in the eyes of those who have had similar experiences, but they aren't you. Every moment we live, even sharing your daily lives with others, they will take things from life and events that are similar, and completely different, at the same time. You see and live and perceive as only you can. We are all human, and therefore, share similarities, but in the end, you are one of a kind baby! No one will see, feel or do things exactly like you, thank goodness, what a boring place this would be. Others can see things through your story, the way you saw it and lived it ,but you own it. It's your life and circumstances that have shaped you and made you who you are. Those things have made you stronger, you survived it, your here to tell the tale, grow from what you have been through, learn from your past but don't live in it. Know that, nothing is ever certain or guaranteed. You can make today better for you, and in the process, maybe others, if they are lucky enough to be a part of your life. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't, who the heck are they? Like my dad told me all the time, and I tell my children, (I think Eleanor Roosevelt started it), nobody can make you feel inferior, unless you allow them to. Don't give others permission to treat you badly, or feel like you are less than what you know you are inside. You don't have to freak out on others that upset or mistreat you, but you can speak your mind, stand up for yourself and let them know, it's Not okay to be that way to you, because you will not stand for it. Love yourself, respect yourself and be happy as much as you can, and the rest of the world will just have to fall in line. What choice do they have if you are the master of your
universe, the captain of your ship, the leader of your life. They have to go through you to cause damage and you won't allow it because you and only you make that decision every day. You may let others influence you and think you are tied to a certain way things should be, but that's only because, you and only you have made this choice, to ultimately, be where you are and do what you do. Free will- we all have it. Great history has been written about it, wars have been fought for it, and we all carry it with us. It is your own personal power.
Surprise yourself with it, use it when you need that burst of strength to walk away from someone or something that is making you unhappy. Turn around and walk away, free will, it is yours to use freely. You chose, of your own free will, to not be unhappy one moment longer. You can also use it to help motivate you to the positive things in life. Learn a new language, write a book, cook instead of going out or, (____fill __in ___the blank___)whatever you want.(Free Will)
Chose to go for a walk, when you think you should be doing some other tedious task in your life that will be there when you get back from your walk, just do it. But this day, in your life, can never be recovered. Yes, maybe, there will be another day like today, but Think about this. When was the last time you watched a sunrise or a sunset? Have you ever? I asked myself that a few months ago and I was shocked when I thought about when, was the last time I watched a sunrise. That is just my example. You have to relate it to your life. But ask yourself, when was the last time you took the time to do such a simple thing that you love. What day or year or age, are you going to find your strength and do the things that you have talked about? The things that are yours alone, that you have never shared with anyone else, that you told yourself you would do? You and only you can answer these questions. Make today the day you start living in this very moment, life, right now. Believe in yourself and find that willpower you have and use it to make your life what you want it to be.
Be the best you possible and grab for your happiness.
You and only you can do it.
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