Depending on how old you are or the things you have been
through in your life, there comes a day when you realize that
we are all survivors. There is a saying that my cousin used to
tell me when I was younger, being cynical or down on myself.
She even put it on the fridge so I could see it all the time. I’m
not sure who wrote it but : Don’t judge, criticize or abuse til
you've walked a mile in my shoes.
And I have always tried to remember that when dealing with
life and the people in it. You never really know what the other
guy has endured to get here. I have learned that when someone
has hopes and dreams, don't discourage them, it may be all they
have.
I learned at a very young age that death comes when you least
expect it. No matter how much you love someone, no matter how
much you need them or how hard you scream and cry, they won't
come back. Some of us have to experience everything first hand
to learn the lessons that everyone around us is trying to teach us,
so we don’t make the same mistakes,some of us go through things
and actually use that knowledge. Some of us learn by watching
others. Then there are some of them that don’t learn from either,
and are oblivious to the life lessons staring them right in the
face and make the same mistakes over and over. Especially when
your younger, we feel invincible and cannot grasp our own mortality,
unless or until it slaps us in the face.
There is no book or manual that I have ever come across that teaches
you how to deal with all the things that happen to you in this life.
Not that they are not out there, they are and have been since forever.
I'm talking about the one that should tell us, in plain English, with no
mystic poems or riddles, how to deal with ourselves and others.
Something that would clue to the big picture when we need it most.
One that should be given to every teenage and young adult, that
answers all their questions about the things that are happening to them
and how to best deal with it all. It would make this all so much
simpler to do, live, love, find happiness. Then there are those that
don't have anyone and those that are not close to their families
for whatever reason.
Because I know from experience, even when you are close with
your parents,there are some things, that at certian ages, you just
can't bring yourself to talk to them about certian things, fearing
judgement or scorn. And even more, that feel like they are somehow
smarter than everyone aroundthem, when in reality, they don't
have a clue. But life will teach them the hardway and by then,
it will be too little, too late for them.
But there's not a Book of Life manual, you have to figure it out
for yourself.
The saddest thing that I have seen is, when you are in need
of guidance, and you have to go to someone, other than those who are
supposed to love and care the most, for help. Because these so called
loved ones turn their backs because you aren't the version of
you that they think you should be.
Life is hard, it's even harder when you don't have anyone in our corner. Remember that the next time your needed by someone
you care about.
Someday you may be their only hope, and that hope may be all they
have.
Love is supposed to be there in good times and bad. When your
doing your best and when your walking down a hard road, real love
doesn't waver. Real love grows and gets stronger through happiness
and adversity. That's life, no one ever said it would be easy. It Is Not.
Being strong and going on is all you can do sometimes. But having
someone there, even just to say, I love you, we will get through this,
can sometimes be your lifeboat in a sea of despair. Make a
difference in the life of the people you love. Be a solution and not
a problem. You chose to be who you want to be, it's in your hands to be
that person they need. There is only one you,
we are all one of a kind and irreplacable. Be the best you that you can
be and don't let other people or life change dictate who you are.
That is yours and yours alone.
That is from my Book of Life, so far.
